Tuesday, July 29, 2008

One Month

Tomorrow will be one month since we made that long drive to the orphanage to pick up Anna Grace. It is hard to believe it has been that long. She has changed so much in four short weeks. She had her second doctor visit today and she has gained another pound!! The ear infection is all better and everything looked good. He was impressed with her development so far. She is a little behind but catching up fast. It feels like she has been a part of our lives forever. She just fits. Our life has definitely changed but I wouldn't go back and undo anything.

My parents came up yesterday to meet Anna and take me out for my birthday:

Hey, what's this big pink thing?

I think I'll touch it!

It feels weird, Mom!
Check out my cool hat:

This is my new best friend!

I like her too:

I can't wait til they let me touch this thing:

This is my favorite toy:
Even when I'm sleepy:
I can sit up:
Maybe not yet!

Monday, July 28, 2008

Forty and freaking out!

I can't sleep tonight. It has been a while since I have had that problem. I think I know why sleep won't come to me tonight. I might as well just say it and get it over with. Tomorrow is my birthday (well, today) and I am 40 years old. That wasn't too hard to write, I guess. It didn't kill me. It still looks old, though. That 4 and that 0 just sitting there together like that. It doesn't seem right that I could be that old. I don't feel it. In my mind's eye, I am still 25. It is funny how life can sneak up on you like that. It may seem like I am having trouble accepting my age and I wish I could say I wasn't, but the truth is, I hate it. I hate that I am 40. I thought that by 40 I would have reached a certain level of maturity, or perfection even. Not even close. I am still just as imperfect and unsure as I was at 25 and 30 and 35...

I guess if I stop and think about it, though, I have many things to be thankful for, even at 40. I am so grateful for my family. Christian parents who sacrificed to send me to a Christian school and provided me with so many experiences like mission trips and summer camp and vacations to interesting places. Brothers and sisters who annoyed me but loved me and helped me grow in so many ways.

I can't imagine my life without my husband. Just today, when he was preaching his sermon and he brought us to tears and made us laugh and taught us something new about prayer, I felt a sense of wonder that God gave me this wonderful gift. He has been the one to hold me up when I literally could not stand on my own. He has listened to all my dreams and shared all my tears. He is the only person who knows my heart completely.

Anyone who knows Allie knows how blessed I am to be her mother. I look at her sometimes and I know that there is a God because only He could take my feeble attempts at motherhood and create such a beautiful example of a Godly young woman. She amazes me with her love for God and her desire to serve Him with her life. She is so full of life and sometimes I have a hard time keeping up with all of the changes I see in her. I can only sit back and watch as she moves forward in her journey and I will tag along as long as she allows me.

There is absolutely no way to talk about my blessings without mentioning my butterfly, Emma. She has changed me and I will never be the same because of the nine years she was mine. She is with me still. She is with me when I rub Allie's back and push her hair behind her ear and kiss her neck. She is with me when I tickle Anna's tummy and beep her nose and let her run her fingers in my hair. Emma loved those things and she lives on in my heart when I repeat them with her sisters. If I could have one birthday wish it would be just one more day with my Emma. One more chance to do those things with her. To hear her laugh. To see her smile. One more time.

And now I have this blessing of Anna Grace. She is a gift of grace to our family. A sign of new life. An example of God's redemption in our lives. I can't wait for everyone to meet her. To see her smile and experience her sweet, sweet spirit. When I think of all of the loss she has gone through in her short life, I am filled with sadness for her. But then I think of the amazing grace of God to place her in our family. A family that knows loss. I will never minimize her loss but I hope I can teach her that it doesn't define her. It can refine her, but not define her.

One thing I have learned since Emma's death is that life does go on, but so does grief. It isn't something you get over or past. It follows you, sits with you, sleeps with you, makes its home in your heart. Grief is a faithful and constant companion. It doesn't leave you the same. I have learned the choice is not whether to grieve or not, it is how you let it change you. It will change you. I pray it changes me for the better.

I know that how I parent Anna will be different because of that grief. Even though she never knew Emma on this earth, she will feel her presence and she will feel her loss. To deny that would be a lie. Our job will be to teach her the lessons we learned from loving and losing her sister.

All of that reminded of another of my blessings at 40. I have such wonderful friends. Friends who embrace me along with my imperfections. Friends who see me in my grief and love me anyway. Friends who were faithful and stood by me when I battled the sadness that engulfed me. Friends who don't minimize my grief or wish it away but welcome it into their lives and allow it to change them also. Friends who truly share my joy as if it were their own.

I guess I have a lot to be thankful for at 40. I guess I should embrace who I am and the life that I have led. I guess I should be grateful that I have had so many years to learn and grow and change. So many, many years...

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Still here!!!

What a whirlwind the past week has been! It has been crazy busy, but good. Anna had her first doctor appointment here in USA and it went well. She has an ear infection still so she is on a stronger antibiotic. She weighs 11 pd 14 oz now so she has gained over a pound in two weeks.

It is hard to believe it has been three weeks since we went to Vietnam and Anna Grace joined our family. It seems like she has always been a part of us. She is such a joy and has added so much to our family. She has changed so much. She is stronger and happier and more social. It is amazing to watch her change and grow. I could not love her any more if I had given birth to her.

Here are some of the things we have been up to:

Aunt Donna and Aunt Rachel came to meet Anna along with Jon and Abby:

Anna met many more friends and family last weekend:

Our amazing and wonderful church family gave her a shower that was filled with love and joy:

Just hanging out on Daddy's lap:

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Pictures and a really boring post

We took the girls to get their pictures taken yesterday. They did not turn out as well as I had hoped. Anna was not smiling like she does at home. I think the photographer was kind of scaring her. We did get some good ones though.

Her foot is cropped out of this one:

I am cropped out of this one:

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Fifteen Years

Last week, Dean and I celebrated our fifteenth wedding anniversary. We were on a plane all day bringing home our new daughter, Anna Grace. Everything had happened so fast over the previous two weeks that I didn't even have a card to give him. I just wanted to write this post to let him know how much I love him and that, though we have changed in many ways, I am still the same girl inside. The one who drove into Whitehall Camp sixteen years ago with a broken spirit and a wounded heart. The one who looked up to see him standing there and knew she was home. The one who still finds her home wherever he happens to be.

Monday, July 14, 2008

Under Construction

I guess I have to apologize to all of you who tried to get on the blog today and couldn't. I was trying to change things around so I closed it. I am still not happy with the way it is but I don't have time to work on it so it will have to do for a while.

The last few days have been crazy. I am exhausted. I can't seem to get back on the right time and neither can anyone else. We go to bed by eight and wake up at three. It stinks. I feel like I can't accomplish the simplest of tasks. Oh well.

Anna is doing great. She is a little more clingy but I think that is good. I can't imagine what is going through her mind with all of the changes in her little life. She is getting more active every day. She is rolling both ways now. She had her first cereal yesterday and seemed to enjoy it.

We had a wonderful welcome home from our friends here and Anna was able to meet her church family yesterday which was awesome. We have some great people in our church. We are blessed to be a part of this family.

This wasn't much of a post but I wanted to get things back up before I got any more phone calls!